“if you think it, it will come” and by it, i mean SPRING!! according to kevin costner, this is the truth. and i believe in field of dreams in all of it’s glory. so i am in full on spring mode today. green bag, my pink beats & bright runners (on sale now)! and i can’t wait till the return of peep toes & well, for this year SLIDES! they are my currently fashion obsession. i need something with a little more comfort in my “old” age also, i can’t keep buying uber thin thong sandals that hurt my feet just walking from the train although i adore these. below: these sandals are mom approved. comfort, style & durability are the key now for my poor feet. they have taken a literal beating over the years. xo
staying loyal. the core to any relationship. with friends. with family. in love. the foundation to any good relationships is loyalty. according to royce “loyalty is a virtue, indeed a primary virtue, the heart of all the virtues, the central duty amongst all the duties.” i believe this to be true. it is the most basic moral principle and every other virtue can derive from it. because of this, staying loyal is also sometimes the most difficult. it’s hard to be good all the time. especially in the world we live in where temptations are lurking around every corner. sometimes they’re simply right in our face. the margins of loyalty sometimes become blurred. and our loyalties are often pulled in different directions. but to whom is your heart truly loyal? this is the question i’ve been toying with. in my life i am loyal to my God, my husband & my daughter. and to my parents. my family & extended. my friends.
firstly, when we talk about faith. how are we truly loyal to our God? i have found myself pondering this question since church last week when we discussed grace. and how grace is such a confusing & conflicting term in the Bible. the main question being are we saved by faith or by grace? are we saved by God’s acts alone or do we also have to believe in the right things, and do the right things in our day to day life. are we forgiven without a doubt? are our sins pardoned? isn’t that what the sacrifice was all about? God sacrificed his Son to save our souls. but then we also learn we must be loyal to our God and live a moral life according to his teachings. and if we believe in faith do we believe that our paths were already set for us long before? or do we have free will to choose the direction of our lives. which role is really shaping our lives and which one are we most loyal to? i struggle with being loyal to my God all the time. I struggle with these concepts of faith & grace. i believe that somewhere in the tangled web of our best, most righteous acts combined with God’s grace and love for the world; that is where our salvation is found. i also believe that struggle is okay. that because i am struggling it means i am trying. and that my ultimate loyalty is in fact to my God. i find myself wanting to learn more & be better every day. but the struggle is inherently real. i stumble, often. and i hope that this combination is in fact what is waiting for me. that because i believe, and because i am loyal, even though i am not perfect, that i will be redeemed. i pray that i can be a good example for my husband & for my daughter. that i can help remind them of grace, even when we slip sometimes into darkness.
loyalty in marriage. it is the quintessential foundation for our relationship. it is bound by trust and love, but the concept of loyalty to your spouse is more than that. it’s choosing to make good decisions when alternate decisions seems so easy. and sometimes more fun. it’s choosing to be good and right. it’s looking at that other person and knowing you would not, could not, ever do anything to wrong them. it is not the ring on our fingers, or the certificate tucked away in our safe that binds us together. not the law. not the rules. it is our combined history that we have created together. it’s the ‘every single days’ that we have shared together for going on 9 years now. all those tiny moments woven together. and it isn’t just about choosing each other day in and day out. our loyalties lie also in our words and in our actions. i fail sometimes in my words – often for the sense of humor & the familiarness of being a class clown. in today’s culture this type of sarcastic banter is even expected. but i know personally i need to be first and foremost my husband’s number one supporter. i need to work on never letting a negative comment about him leave my mouth. to promote him. to be proud of him. to be loyal to him with my words & the way i project him to others. to always protect him, and our relationship, above all else. it is sacred and it is a gift. he has given me a type of comfort in this world i could have never dreamed of before him. a knowingness that i will never be alone.
to my daughter. my loyalties lie in protecting her. in teaching her. in loving her. she will forever be the keeper of my heart. i hope that she will know this. and realize that nothing comes before family. that her pain is my pain, and her happiness my happiness. and that everything i do, is with her in mind. she is the spark that keeps me illuminated. without her, i can’t imagine the light ever coming back. she has re-charted my course. and pointed me in a better direction.
this fierce loyalty to me is everything. the unwavering commitment to the people who make up the essential parts of who we are. it is the beginning and end of everything.
with the new house i have been tray obsessed (and pillow obsessed, but if i bring home one more of those brian is going to make me sleep in a pillow fort out back). trays add such wonderful touch of color, or texture to an otherwise ordinary table or vanity. plus some are great for serving cocktails!!! while i lay on the couch & watch reality tv shows & have grapes fed to me, now Brian can allllllso bring me cocktails! ideal. i also love small trays to store jewels and my wedding rings, because i haphazardly take them off a lot and we have had a few scares (shhhh, don’t tell brian, again). also trays are great for keys, to toss on your entry way table. this is my current favorite. and this.
ribbonmade is an etsy shop that creates custom trays with your wedding invitations / a wonderful keepsake or wedding gift for friends & family! we have ours & absolutely love it
happy st patricks day!!!!!!!!!!! this day usually means spring is coming, it means we get to have green beers & eat shepherds pie and wear green (my favorite color) and watch the parade & basically be silly & celebrate. i am irish. the percentages to me are completely unknown, but pretty sure there is a little dutch & german in there too. someday i’d like to do research all of that. although the process seems impossible. it seems important now though, to tell madison who she is and where she came from. even if we aren’t entirely sure. i signed up for ancestry.com so i guess that’s the first start!
wearing this green top (need in every color) with these wide leg suit pants
and since it’s all about green & gold today, i of course also have on my monogram necklace (my favorite accessory ever!!) / another favorite here and my MK watch & this bangle in gold
also wearing jcrew etta pumps which are my all-time favorite, best in the whole world, go-to work shoes!! you can still get them in some styles via ebay / my other favorite brand currently is sam edelman, i’m eyeing THESE
madison is wearing H&M & a willow crowns shamrock bow. obsessed with getting her this leather kitty skirt & these floral pants
next week i’ll post our best of spring dresses – we have found soooooo many, don’t tell daddy (deliver stuff to the office!)
and enjoy a delicious mint oreo cupcake recipe below (full recipe here but we made a few slight alterations)
1 Box Devils Food Cake Mix
1 Package Oreo Cookies
2 Cups Unsalted Butter
2 TBS Mint Extract
1 2Lb Bag Of Powdered Sugar (approx. 8 cups)
4-6 TBS Milk
*makes approx 24 cupcakes
Preheat oven to 350, line 2 cupcake pans with 24 cupcake liners. Pull apart Oreo cookies and place the side with cream still attached, cream up in each cookie liner. Set aside the other Oreo Cookies halves.
Mix Devils food cake mix as instructed on box. Spoon 2 – 2 1/2 TBS of batter into each cupcake liners. Bake at 350 degrees for 16 minutes.
Place the remaining Oreo cookie tops in ziplock bag & let toddler crush them (with hands, with feet, etc.) – or you can throw them in a food processor but madison really wanted to help! set aside
In the bowl of an electric mixer, or a large mixing bowl, beat butter until light and fluffy. Add mint extract and mix until combined. Slowly add in powdered sugar. Once all of the powdered sugar is combined, beat it milk 1 TBS at a time until you have reached your desired consistency.
While mixing, slowly sprinkle in Oreo cookie crumbs. I used about 1/2 cup but you can you more or less depending on how much Oreo flavor you want. Remember to save a little to sprinkle finished cupcakes.
Once cupcakes have cooled, pipe icing onto cupcakes and sprinkle with remaining Oreo crumbs.
we are gearing up for Easter around here!! madison understands the Easter bunny is coming, even though she is also scared of it at the same time. she also learned from someone that ” the Easter bunny brings me chocolate ” (i blame school) so now, there will most certainly have to be some chocolate in her basket. i am going to attempt this healthy chocolate zucchini bread for an Easter afternoon snack.
there’s that. to add to the other list of things that have been going on around here lately. between work with all-star weekend, moving, a sick baby, overtime and court schedules for brian & just general every day hiccups. things have not been getting done in our new household. however, i love it. we love it. we have so much more space & madison can run around & be a crazy lady. she’s is still learning her way around the new place and asking things like “where’s my room?” when she gets lost and saying “i love my new castle” (we live in a castle, in case you didn’t know). we want to really make this space a home for us & we are taking more time and care into molding a space that really works for us a family. in the old apartment that was hard, it was cram as much stuff into a little space as possible. now we have the ability to be creative & really make this house a home. and first things first, we finished the bathroom – it is by far the smallest room so therefore it was the easiest to accomplish. thank you H&M for your amazing home decor
madison goes bonkers for smoothies so after hearing a friend rave over her special smoothies (and how great chia seeds are), we made some adaptations & created one for ourself! it has been a big hit in our household the past few days, not to mention it’s good for her!!! HOORAY!! she’s also been quite obsessed lately with our new re-play recycled dish ware & cups.